• Instead of saying: “Look at you, you're such a good girl. You cleaned up all the paint by yourself.”
  • Try saying: “You cleaned up the paint all by yourself! That was a big task. Thank you very much. That was helpful.”
  • Child hears: I am helpful. I am capable. I can tackle big projects and see them through to the end. I am appreciated.
  • Instead of saying: “I like it when you clean up the books.”
  • Try saying: “You cleaned up the books all by yourself. Thank you. I appreciate it.”
  • Child hears: I can make valuable contributions to our group.
  • Instead of saying: “Good job!”
  • Try saying: “You did it! You must be proud of yourself.”
  • Child hears: I am capable. I can take pride in what I do.
  • Instead of saying: “You drew a beautiful picture.”
  • Try saying: “You have worked hard. Tell me about your favorite part.”
  • Child hears: My opinions are valuable
  • Instead of saying: “I love your dress (hair, shirt, etc).”
  • Try saying: “You picked out your clothes today.”
  • Child hears: I can make choices.
  • Instead of saying: “You slept through the night (ate all your food, etc), what a good baby you are.”
  • Try saying: “I love you.”
  • Child hears: I am loved, and it’s not based on my behavior or biological drives.
  • Instead of saying: “You have a stinky diaper, let’s change you.”
  • Try saying: “You have poop in your diaper, you will feel better once you have a fresh diaper on.”
  • Child hears: My body and my biological drives are o.k. and not something to be judged, but something to be respected.
  • Instead of saying: "Stop screaming.”
  • Try saying: “You are screaming. You are feeling strongly right now. Do you want my help?”
  • Child hears: My feelings and needs are valid and important. I can meet my needs and seek help if necessary.
  • Instead of saying: “Stop crying.”
  • Try saying: “You are crying. You are feeling (identify the emotion). Do you want my help?”
  • Child hears: My emotions are valid and important. I can regulate my emotions and seek help to soothe myself if I need to.
  • Instead of saying: “Good boy/girl!”
  • Try saying: “Thank you for…”
  • Child hears: My worth does not depend on my behavior or others opinions of me. I am appreciated when I contribute to “the team.”

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SEPTEMBER 6, 2012

Bill Clinton has decades of public-speaking experience, a deep well of charisma, and record high favorability ratings. But even mere mortals can borrow a few of his simple techniques to make our own presentations shine.

President…

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an-almost-made-up-melody:

Bill Clinton full DNC Speech 2012 (by 1jzo)

This made me tear up twice. Bill still hasn’t lost his charm or ease of explaining to people and relating on a personal level.

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littleoneinnyc:

All I can hear in my head right now is Oprah screaming “YOU get a gay husband, YOU get a gay husband, EVERYBODY GETS A GAY HUSBAAAAAAND!”

littleoneinnyc:

All I can hear in my head right now is Oprah screaming “YOU get a gay husband, YOU get a gay husband, EVERYBODY GETS A GAY HUSBAAAAAAND!”

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evepostapple:

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an-almost-made-up-melody:

Bill Clinton full DNC Speech 2012 (by 1jzo)

This made me tear up twice. Bill still hasn’t lost his charm or ease of explaining to people and relating on a personal level.

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We were discussing homosexuality because of an allusion to it in the book we were reading, and several boys made comments such as, “That’s disgusting.” We got into the debate and eventually a boy admitted that he was terrified/disgusted when he was once sharing a taxi and the other male passenger made a pass at him. The lightbulb went off. “Oh,” I said. “I get it. See, you are afraid, because for the first time in your life you have found yourself a victim of unwanted sexual advances by someone who has the physical ability to use force against you.” The boy nodded and shuddered visibly.“But,” I continued. “As a woman, you learn to live with that from the time you are fourteen, and it never stops. We live with that fear every day of our lives. Every man walking through the parking garage the same time you are is either just a harmless stranger or a potential rapist. Every time.” The girls in the room nodded, agreeing. The boys seemed genuinely shocked. “So think about that the next time you hit on a girl. Maybe, like you in the taxi, she doesn’t actually want you to.”

Homophobia: The fear that another man will treat you like you treat women. Andrew Sullivan.

If you read NOTHING ELSE today, read this.

(via dearscience)

(Source: andrewsullivan.thedailybeast.com)

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muffintop-less:

CINNAMON PUMPKIN PROTEIN MUFFINS
DRY INGREDIENTS: 
2 Cups Oat Flour
2 Scoops Myofusion Probiotic Series in Cinnamon Roll
1 tsp Baking Soda
1 tsp Baking Powder
1/2 tsp Salt
2 tsp Ground Cinnamon
1 tsp Nutmeg
1/2 Cup Stevia
WET INGREDIENTS:
1/2 Cup Unsweetened Vanilla Almond Milk
2 tsp Vanilla Extract
1/2 Cup Liquid Egg Whites
4 oz Unsweetened Applesauce
15 oz Can of 100% Pure Pumpkin
Click the link below for the full recipe, calorie/nutrition info and instructions! =)http://muffin-topless.com/2012/08/17/cinnamon-pumpkin-protein-muffins/

muffintop-less:

CINNAMON PUMPKIN PROTEIN MUFFINS

DRY INGREDIENTS: 

  • 2 Cups Oat Flour
  • 2 Scoops Myofusion Probiotic Series in Cinnamon Roll
  • 1 tsp Baking Soda
  • 1 tsp Baking Powder
  • 1/2 tsp Salt
  • 2 tsp Ground Cinnamon
  • 1 tsp Nutmeg
  • 1/2 Cup Stevia

WET INGREDIENTS:

  • 1/2 Cup Unsweetened Vanilla Almond Milk
  • 2 tsp Vanilla Extract
  • 1/2 Cup Liquid Egg Whites
  • 4 oz Unsweetened Applesauce
  • 15 oz Can of 100% Pure Pumpkin

Click the link below for the full recipe, calorie/nutrition info and instructions! =)
http://muffin-topless.com/2012/08/17/cinnamon-pumpkin-protein-muffins/

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aheartfullofspirit:

This looks totally like something I would do. In fact, I’m surprised I wasn’t the one who came up with this.

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